I recently supported Cassie Premo
Steele’s Facebook co-created poetry Kickstarter (http://www.kickstarter.com/projects/747692735/co-create-the-wordy-wednesday-poem-book?ref=live). As a result I was entered into a drawing and
subsequently won a copy of Sheryl Sandberg’s new book Lean In. I’d pIanned to read it in one weekend flurry
over Easter break but spent that time fighting fever and skipping coloring eggs
instead. The week off school that
followed was filled with health recoup and kid time. Today I am a measly 26 pages into the
book. Nonetheless I have arrived at
something to contemplate: a poster
described as present in the Facebook office where Sandberg works that reads
“What would you do if you weren’t afraid?”
Afraid is defined at
dictionary.com.
1. feeling fear; filled with apprehension: afraid to go.
2. feeling regret, unhappiness, or the like: I’m afraid we can’t go on Monday.
3. feeling reluctance, unwillingness, distaste, or the like: He seemed afraid to show his children kindness.
1. feeling fear; filled with apprehension: afraid to go.
2. feeling regret, unhappiness, or the like: I’m afraid we can’t go on Monday.
3. feeling reluctance, unwillingness, distaste, or the like: He seemed afraid to show his children kindness.
Sheryl shares on p.26 of Lean
In that “Writing this book is what I would do if I weren’t afraid.”
This strikes me as a great example of how reading over and over a written
statement intentionally placed in your path affects your actions.
I am afraid of the question! Afraid of the answers. Believing a small bit of fear might just keep
us safe, as in not stepping too close to a cliff or driving a car recklessly. But I equally hold true that fear can keep us
so far from the cliff we miss the view or never learn to drive at all.
What are we afraid of? Being judged by
others as odd or a failure or underachieving or bossy or foolish? Of being without enough money to live
comfortable? Of alienating someone? Of revealing our truth? Of hurting someone’s feelings? Of regret?
Of screwing up? Of rocking a
basically steady boat that is, well, okay if not fabulous? We’re afraid
of the unknown, but isn’t it ALL unknown?
What would I do if I weren’t afraid?
I don’t seem to have a clear answer today. For starters, I’m going to read the question
every day, “What would you do if you weren’t afraid?” That does scare me a bit because, perhaps as
in Sandberg’s daily exposure to written query, I might come across a specific
task, a spark, an idea. As I ponder I
must also wonder though what practices can we conquer our fears? Faith.
Meditation. Daily
experience. Absorbing inspiring works of
scripture, poetry, non-fiction, and biography.
Seeking wise leaders and listening.
Listening.
I
learned that courage was not the absence
of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave
man is not he who does not feel afraid, but
he who conquers that fear.
- Nelson Mandela
of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave
man is not he who does not feel afraid, but
he who conquers that fear.
- Nelson Mandela
We
can easily forgive a child who is afraid
of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when
mean are afraid of the light.
- Plato
of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when
mean are afraid of the light.
- Plato